Let go of Anger
"In recovery, we often discuss anger objectively. Yes, we reason, it's an emotion we're all prone to experience. Yes, the goal in recovery is to be free of resentment and anger. Yes, it's okay to feel angry, we agree. Well maybe.. Anger is a powerful and sometimes frightening emotion. It's also a beneficial one if it's not allowed to harden into resentment or used as a battering ram to punish or abuse people. Anger is a warning signal. It points to problems. Sometimes, it signals problems we need to solve. Sometimes, it points to boundaries we set. Sometimes, it's the final burst of energy before letting go, or acceptance, settles in. And, sometimes, anger just is. It doesn't have to be justified. It usually can't be confined to a tidy package. And it need to cause us to stifle ourselves or our energy. We don't have to feel guilty whenever we experience anger. We don't have to feel guilty. Breath deeply. We can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for our behaviours." Melody Beattie (The language of letting go) |